Potato Members have recently been attending a variety of online events talking about CPV (Child to Parent Violence), Attachment and The Care Review.
The words of a potato member demonstrate clearly how many of our members feel so misunderstood when we are simply tired.
We parent traumatised children/ teens and young adults who entered our lives with attachment difficulties that did not melt away and CPV became the reason so many of our much loved children then re-entered care. Will the care review be able to hear uncomfortable truths about traumatised children and how adopters (special guardians , kinship carers and long term foster carers) are misunderstood when we are simply tired of it all?
Our spud said this
I often used to wonder what people would do when they ask you how you are if you didn’t just say fine but outpoured – they would probably regret asking or avoid you in future.
Well tonight I’m not fine so I’m treating you lovely Potato folk to a self pitying whinge called I’m tired…
I’m tired of whinging tired of being tired tired of the stress, anxiety and worry tired of the daily challenges tired of the not knowing tired of not being in control tired of the frustration and conflicting emotions tired of feeling numb, hollow and empty tired of the helplessness and grief tired of trying tired of putting on a brave face and pretending to cope tired of trying to please everyone with little or no thanks tired of treading on eggshells tired of keeping it all in so not to alienate people further tired of not knowing whats truth and whats lies tired of failing when i try my best and the lowering self esteem and confidence that is creeping back in tired of the micro moments i manage (guess thats a positive i still have them) swiftly being snuffed out by the next bad news or challenge tired of loss of people and my possessions tired of disturbed sleep tired of not knowing who i am anymore tired of feeling sorry for myself tired of fight and flight competing with each other tired of double standards tired of being blamed tired of being judged tired of feeling compromised tired of worrying about the future and the childrens future and safety tired of constantly fearing the worst tired of the what if’s and what should have beens tired of feeling so lost that i feel the need to write and share self pitying rubbish like this. I guess I’m just tired
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