Not an easy thing to talk about but our wonderful adoptive mum Sonya and her daughter Danni are giving it a go. There are a fair proportion of adopted young people who become involved in trafficking, county lines and other undesirable activities. It is truly terrifying as a parent and of course as a child. These poor choices are tied in with their repeated early trauma which damages their self worth, ability to attach and causes repeated developmental trauma. Here is the clip
There are lots of adopted children who have foetal alcohol who have particular challenges in life and educationally. Not many children are diagnosed at birth because unless it can be proved that birth mum consumed alcohol through pregnancy to a degree that is likely to cause harm, there is often no diagnosis. Here, Sonya and Danni discuss her late diagnosis and the impact knowing this had on her and her education in particular. If you are an adoptive parent and would like to
This is an article written for professionals and adoptive parents to use to inform themselves about a way forwards. We think there are some problems within adoption that need addressing. It is written by one of our members, based on many years of adoptive parenting. This individual has experience of birth parenting too, and so knows how very different the experiences of parenting are. Have a look through the article and see if you agree with the questions posed. What would yo
Talking about how Potato members often face crisis with their traumatised adopted young people and the professionals lack capacity to help. Good Morning everyone. POTATO has been in demand recently, with the Wright Stuff and this piece on the Victoria Derbyshire programme. It emphasises how important POTATO group is to families in terms of support and expert knowledge having had many families having faced similar troubles in the past. Thank you to our members who took part, e
Yes, now you’ve got that 90s classic zipping through your head- have a read of this weeks excellent blog. Listen here: Moving on up, moving on up! It can be ever so challenging for adoptive parents, with vulnerable adoptees, having a variety of executive functioning and other difficulties to start moving towards independence. Hopefully, this weeks blog will give you some ideas of where to start and a chance to think through the issues faced by families at this point in life.
On Monday morning The Wright Stuff on Channel 5 ran a phone in about the controversial topic of whether a 2 year old should be told that her father killed her mother and then took his own life in prison. Here is the news link. Here at the POTATO group we understand that many of our members had their children due to reasons of extreme violence, and it is important to give their children a narrative. This is based on the work in Greg Keck’s 2002 book “Parenting the hurt child”
There are some mistakes folk make when talking about traumatised kids, really it boils down to not wanting to think too much on the awful stuff that happens to children in this day and age. To address some of these misconceptions and to inform the public at large, the open nest adoption support charity have made a series of short films. This one is called “The Lost Children of Trauma”. #Adoption #film #TheOpenNest #Traumatisedkids
Hello all POTATO group members and interested people 🙂 In November we held our AGM and conference with a mix of speakers and information sharing amongst peers. AGM. The Steering group met and it was decided that the roles within Potato Group needed some changes due to the increased work load involved in a larger, and expanding membership. The roles decided upon were: Chairperson. x1 General Secretary. x1 Membership Secretary. x1 Welfare Secretary x2 Treasurer (with supportin